Anonymous said: hello! I am considering moving to the city proceeding graduation. Would you recommend it? or should I reconsider? If so, do you have any advice on how to survive financially, socially, etc.?
when you say “the city”, i’m assuming you mean new york, correct? let me say this - i am supported financially by my partner and the only “social life” i have involves staying in touch with friends i made in college. additionally, i moved to new york out of necessity - first to live with family in queens [because that’s all we could afford] before relocating to brooklyn to ease my partner’s daily commute [because that’s all we could afford]. moving elsewhere was never really an option, as such, i’m not comfortable offering anyone advice on shit i know nothing about.
you ought to think critically about why you want to move to the city - what is motivating your consideration? what things are you looking to do and experience, and why do you think new york is a good place to do/experience them? is moving here part of a long-term plan, or just a whim [both are permissible]? i can’t very well “recommend" anything to you unless i know your situation.
keep in mind: new york is difficult to relocate to if you don’t have a good amount of disposable income. like most cities, it can be overwhelming, smelly, alienating, and dangerous. public transportation is simultaneously extremely convenient and unimaginably tedious. being happy here takes effort [but that’s true almost everywhere, isn’t it?]. every neighborhood is a different microcosm, and all of them are great, but they are people’s homes first-and-foremost, trendy destinations second. the NYPD is a terrorist organization. both summers and winters are uniquely brutal, but autumn is magical. the food is fucking great. there are a lot of people.
Ugh conjuringseed hitting the nail on the head as always.